A Global Perspective

Sometimes the best conversations happen when you’re least expecting them.

Say, like…10:30PM on a weeknight, lying in bed, waiting for Missy’s Ambien to kick in.

It’s safe to say that I was having a bit of a moment.  We were talking about the impending birth of our daughters (what else) when I admitted that I was a little nervous…ok, a lot nervous…that I was going to be a miserable failure as a father.  The reasons were varied from not finishing the “parenting for multiples” book to seriously lacking the diaper-changing skills necessary to maintain three clean baby bottoms.

That’s when she dropped the bomb and reminded me of the mission trip we took to Ghana in 2008.  She reminded me of the mothers we saw that didn’t have baby “how to” books.  She reminded me that they didn’t have the latest toys, cribs, and bottles that I might feel essential to properly raising a child.

But yet…they some how managed.

Babies spend most of their time strapped to their mothers back (much like a Baby Bjorn).  While hard at work

…and at play.

When they are tired, they sleep

…and when they are dirty, they bathe.

It’s a pretty cool sight to see, actually.  All-in-all…it’s not too different from how things are done in Iowa.  The children survive, and even thrive, despite having so little compared to the resources we have available to us.

I can always count on Missy to calm me down and set me straight.  While I may still be more than just a little nervous that our girls will be born in less than three weeks…she honestly made me realize that in the end, everything is going to work out just fine…just like they are supposed to.

And that when it comes to changing those dirty diapers, practice makes perfect.


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About Tom Hardinge

Loving husband to my wife Missy, loving father to my four daughters Sienna, Rowan, Jovie, and Lola. I'm a chronic over-packer who loves good coffee, good music, running, waffle tee's, fleece pants, and Jesus Christ!

3 thoughts on “A Global Perspective

  1. Beautiful entry Tom! Brought me to tears! You need not worry about how you will fair as a Daddy! You were brought up in an amazing family who taught you right from wrong and showed you that love will get you through any obstacle! You are an amazing man and will make a superior father! I have NO doubt!

  2. Tommy, you will be a GREAT father, and those aren’t just words to toss around lightly. You are providing for their mother right now better than anyone else could, and soon you will be for them as well. You think you will understand how you love your children, even as Missy gets bigger and the day gets closer, but just wait until you actually SEE them. HOLD them. KISS them. There is nothing like the instantaneous bond between parent and child. To go from an abstract thought to an actual being, YOUR being that you created….it’s surreal. In every other relationship you have, the other person had to DO something to “earn” your love. Even Missy had to be nice and loving (and cute!) for you to notice her. But your children simply have to be for you to love them. I think it’s much the same way God loves us, and you will have a whole new perspective on God’s love once those babies are born. And THAT is all you need to be an amazing father.

    PS: Joel had not changed a single diaper before Brady. You learn….quickly!

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