Where to begin.
Today you turn 29. You may feel like you are turning 40 due to our crazy life, but it is just 29. I have only gotten to be part of your life for the last 10 of those, married for 6, with 4 children joining us in the last 2 1/2 of those. But enough with the numbers, I just want to talk about you.
There isn’t a week that passes that I don’t think, “How did I get this lucky?”. Not only do I have four beautiful, amazing daughters, but I am married to the most wonderful man God could have ever placed in my life.
Now we both know that our life together hasn’t been an easy one. From “dating” 1,000 miles away for 3 1/2 years, to having three daughters all at once and then adding another, to say we are an unbreakable team is an understatement. I don’t want you to think for one minute that I don’t know that some husbands don’t change dirty diapers, do the laundry, or write a family blog. I see all of it. And I appreciate it.
To me, appreciation is one of the greatest forms of love. So, I would like you to have this list of all the things I appreciate about you that might go unsaid or unheard in the tornado of tea parties and play-doh that goes on at our house. When you might be having a rough day, and I pass out at 8:30 covered in leaking breastmilk and whatever the girls ate for supper, I want you to come back to this and know that I appreciate all that you do.
-I appreciate that when you get home from work, you scoop up all four children instantly and take them to play without even changing your clothes because you know without a word being said that I need a kidless-30-minute-break to make dinner in silence.
-I appreciate that you moved to Iowa. I know how it breaks your heart to be away from your family in Maryland. It breaks my heart too. We both grew up in a slew of cousins and aunts and uncles and we want nothing less for our girls, but we had to make a choice. That choice pulled you away from everything familiar. But, we built a new familiar here and I just want you to know that not a day goes by that I don’t I think about the sacrifice that not only you made, but your family as well, and I appreciate it.
-I appreciate that I never have to ask you to clean up or do the dishes, etc. You just do it because it needs done. That says a lot about you.
-I appreciate that you put thought into everything. I know I tease you sometimes about overthinking things, but I really love the fact that you research the right things for our family and you take time to make or get me the most wonderful and amazing gifts instead of picking up a necklace at the mall on your way home from work.
-I appreciate that you thank me on a weekly basis for staying home to raise our girls. You and I agree that being a stay-at-home parent is the hardest job on earth and if more spouses would acknowledge and give thanks to said stay-at-home-parent, the world would be a much better place.
-I appreciate your encouragement. Whenever I need a boost in life, you are my personal cheerleader.
-I appreciate that you go to work each day to support our family. We both may have to work two jobs eventually…prom dresses…cars…dance…college…weddings…wow.
-I appreciate that you tell me I look beautiful with all sincereity even when neither of us can remember when I showered last and I have been wearing the same clothes for at least three days.
-I appreciate your sentimental heart. You take in every experience and remember it with such fondness. Our girls are going to need that. A Daddy with a soft heart when their &*^%$ of a mom won’t let them do ANYTHING. 🙂
-I appreciate that you “kick” me out of the house to have some alone time while you stay home with 3 two-year-olds and a baby. On bath night. During the teething. With 3 heads of tangly hair. Ummm Hello. Some guys don’t feel comfortable staying home with two or three kids on their own. You rock.
-I appreciate you. I appreciate all things said here and those left unsaid. I appreciate that you love us and take care of us and ask for nothing in return. I don’t know what I or we would do without you.
(Oh…and I, and probably everyone else, appreciate that YOU write this blog, because my entires are always lists.)
Will you please leave a comment about a favorite memory or what comes to mind when you think of Tommy!! I know it would make his day!